Marilyn Woodard

All the Way Home (subtitle: Building a Family in a Falling-Down House) by David Giffels

This is a must-read for anyone that has ever wanted to buy an old house and rehab it into a thing of beauty. We've all seen the interior design magazines and home decorating tv shows: the before and after pictures. That's what snares us. The dreary before pictures and the lovely, completely harmonious, light filled spaces of the "after" photos. What a wonderful thing that would be, to transform a dark old hulk into the pristine wonder of the neighborhood.

This book is neither the before nor the after. This is the in-between: the reality of buying your dream home and the nightmare of turning it into the home of your dreams.

It is also the story of a Grown-up Kid coming to grips with being a Man who must provide a home for his family. The Grown-up Kid provides us with plenty of humor along the way. He's having a blast playing with his tools, inventing solutions and battling wild beasts (in the attic, no less.) The Man gives us cause for concern: will his family survive intact? He has to somehow balance his family's need for livable shelter with their need for his physical presence.

Giffels' prose makes this journey from Kid-to-Man and Hulk-to-House a wonderful read. Just listen to this, about a trip to the giant home-improvement store.

I came here for three things:

1. a can of expanding sealant, that magical stuff;

2. another three bags of mortar because this much I've learned: a single bag of mortar is a fool's errand; and

3: possibly a hinge. The hinge is a lark…It's heavy and antique and I know I will not find one here. But I have to look.

Looking for something we don't think we'll find--this is an understanding we share here in the wilds of the superstore.

We are people afraid of what might happen if our lives became comfortable. We are people who don't know nearly as much as we want the world to believe we know.

We are fathers. We are desperate to understand our place among people who desperately need us.

Our ambition is complicated… I've stopped now, between Lighting and Doors. A hinge--is it "hardware" or "fastener"?

We do not ask. We seek and discover. We, in the aisles: we are seekers and discoverers. This is our frontier. This is what we have left.

My one complaint about this delightful book is the lack of pictures. How did this get published without pictures? I mean, really!

And this is why I love the Internet. I Googled Mr. Giffels and found this wonderful slideshow. http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2008/04/17/garden/20080417akron_index.html?partner=permalink&exprod=permalink

Now we can sit back, enjoy the before and after photos, and pretend it's as easy as the television shows make it look!

Blessings on you! Marilyn ©Marilyn Woodard 2008

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